Emotional affairs don’t happen overnight but result from several seemingly insignificant everyday decisions (and the belief in many subtle lies). Ladies, you don’t want to fall into this trap! As someone who had an emotional infidelity, I want to share the warning signs of an emotional affair and share with you the lies that I (and many others) believe that lead to an emotional affair. I want to break the silence around these issues and discuss practical ways to counteract these mistruths. Most of all, I want you to know that you are not alone in these feelings and that there is help!

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  1. I remember in the first few years of marriage I had an emotional affair (I confessed this to my wonderful man years ago and that was when our marriage was struggling to survive). The thought of me actually acting upon those emotions makes me sick now. I think about what I would have missed out on…all the good stuff. to see my husband become the amazing and Godly man that he is. To see him be the wonderful father he is. To know that I am cherished and adored by him. I am so thankful that I repented of that emotional affair before it went further than it could have.
    I wonder if becoming a whole and healed person with Jesus is so vital to a healthy marriage…actually, I know this to be true. Looking to our Saviour for fulfillment and identity.
    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

  2. Hi Shannon! Actually, Rachel wrote the post as one of our guest writers, so you were correct in mentioning her. 🙂 But I’m the one who usually writes for the site. Good to meet you, and so glad the post blessed you! Thank you for sharing your story too!

  3. YES! I think that the sooner we can talk about these things in the open, the better to help prevent emotional affairs for someone in the future. It can happen to anyone regardless of how good the marriage is, IF you are not on your guard. Thank you for sharing your post with us at the Over the Moon Link Party.

  4. First of all, thank you for your bravery in writing on such a sensitive topic. It was God and his grace who saved my marriage after my husband had an emotional affair. The pain was so unbearable at the time but God’s grace is always sufficient. Marriages are worth saving. Sometimes as couple’s we really need to take the time to reconnect with one another and remember why we fell in love in the first place. I’m so glad you shared with us at Merry Monday. I’m on the way to read more on your blog.

  5. This was a great read. I had an emotional affair that ended up being physical. I believed the lies in my mind and the lies he was telling me. He told me everything I wanted to hear. I was experiencing some abuse.

    All I can say is that we have to be very careful.

  6. Rachel! We are all so blessed by your humility and willingness to share. Thank you, thank you! I know this is a sensitive topic, but I am praying that many marriages will be saved through your words here. Blessings to you.

  7. Thanks again Alicia for allowing me to share my personal story and thoughts regarding this issue! I hope it provides enough insights towards avoiding an affair. – Rachel

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