I have conversations all the time with an imaginary man. In fact, I'll bet you do too. You see, we develop these unrealistic expectations of how our marriage should be (and especially how our husbands "should" treat us). And on days when real married life is less than ideal, we imagine how our fantasy spouse--let's call him "Prince Charming"--would act in that moment. Prince Charming gives the "perfect" answer our your feelings, right? He says things like: “Oh, honey, you’re so right. Let me draw you a bath and give you a neck message as you tell me all about it.” Prince Charming knows exactly what we need, and is more than happy to give it to us gift-wrapped with a lovely red bow. He is completely selfless and at our beck and call. And if we let him invade our mind regularly, this fantasy guy can also be a silent marriage killer. How can we deal with unrealistic expectations in marriage?

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  1. Sandy, thank you so much for picking my post! I appreciate that and glad you will be sharing it with others! 🙂

  2. Thank you so much for sharing your post with us at the #AnythingGoes Link Party! The new party goes live today at 6 PM ET. You’re my pick for this week’s feature post!!!

  3. Jenn, yes! Those darn romantic comedies!! They tend to stir those emotions in me as well! What a great point. And YES… it’s critical that we re-frame and ask ourselves, “What IS he doing to show me love?” It sounds like you’re blessed with an amazing hubby too!

  4. Ooh I feel this post for sure! It happens especially when I watch too many romantic comedies. If I watch them a lot, you can be sure I end up thinking – “why doesn’t my hubby surprise me like that?” or “Why isn’t he as romantic anymore?” It is so true that holding on to unrealistic expectations can seriously damage your marriage. It’s helpful for me to step back and re-evaluate all the amazing things my hubby does every day – like help with the dishes after a long day of work 🙂

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