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  1. Wow! I love this! Thank you for sharing! I’m so glad to hear that this post encouraged you and helped to not feel alone in your situation with your partner. Praying for you both as you navigate how to best love each other in your differences. 🙂 Be blessed!

  2. Hi, I came across your page to find answer if spouses should tell everything. I have heard your post already on “when to keep silent and when to share with your spouse” then it lead me to this as I am feeling the exact way that you felt! Me and my partner are not married yet, we are only in the first few months of dating and I am doing my best to keep God in the center of our relationship. I am more extroverted than he is and when it comes to communicating, he is just like your husband. So i long for that deep heart to heart conversation and so yes! unexpected realities does steal joy and thank you for helping me realise that I need to accept him just the way he is, and let God work in and through us. God bless you in your ministry! <3 thea

  3. Hi Blanca, thanks for sharing your heart here. I agree that sometimes it feels like we’re not able to get our needs met, or that we have to “lower our expectations.” I don’t have an easy answer here because I don’t know your unique situation, but I do say that in my marriage I am constantly searching for that tension between what are healthy expectations for the marriage at this time, and what are just not realistic. Yes, there probably are things in every marriage where husbands are being “let off the hook,” just as there are things in every marriage where the wife is “let off the hook.” This is why it’s so important that God must be a part of every marriage. He is the one who gives us clarity into what’s going on, wisdom on what to say when (or when to shut our mouths), and abundant grace to cover over those areas where we know our spouse is “deficient.” We can’t love our spouses through these imperfections without Him helping us.

  4. I have learned the hard way that only God can provide for my every need. At times I struggle with putting my husband before God in terms of where I’m looking to get my needs met. It’s a daily struggle for me. But it seems like many women these days have to settle for less in their marriages. I feel like I’m constantly lowering my expectations in this marriage. In reality aren’t we just letting our husbands off the hook for some of the things they should be doing?

  5. Kalynne, thank you, thank you for sharing! In marriage, I understand that it can be so hard to wait for God to do that work (in him and in us). I would encourage you friend to keep going, trusting in God for His plan to work out through all of the challenges. Praying for you right now! I’m glad you stopped by too!

  6. I’m so thankful I came across your blog! I just happened to see this the same day I had a difficult conversation with my Christian Counselor about the way my husband has treated me our entire marriage. I have lost hope at times, but am encouraged to keep fighting for my marriage, loving my husband unconditionally and believing God for the changes that need to take place. Thank you for sharing your heart with us! Vulnerability and being real are much needed I’m this hour. 🙂

  7. Hi Marilyn! Yes, I agree that we can’t try to manipulate someone else in order to create our own happiness. It can be a huge challenge in marriage, but there is HOPE! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

  8. Waiting for someone else to make you happy is such a futile thing. You need to create your own happiness but communication is the key. Great thought provoking article. Thank you so much for linking at #overthemoon! I look forward to seeing what you share very week. Please come back for #WonderfulWednesday. Don’t forget to comment your link #’s so I can be sure to visit.

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