This one intentional habit has kept our marriage thriving even in the busiest seasons. It's a simple change that will bring the closeness--and real, heartfelt connection--that you're craving from your spouse. If you're married, don't miss this!

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  1. Kerry, I am so sorry to hear about what’s happening in your marriage! It’s hard for me to answer this since I don’t know your specific situation and what’s going on. Would your husband be open to talking like this once a day? Communication is always a good thing, and I can imagine that time like this each day would be extremely helpful for couples who need to talk through challenging issues. However, I would also encourage you to find a counselor to give you specific strategies on what to work on together during this time of separation. I am praying for you right now–for healing in your marriage and that you will be able to work things out. Your marriage is worth it and worth fighting for! Don’t give up hope!

  2. My husband is moving out Thursday, we are going to do a trial separation, in which time I’d love to save the marriage if there is anything left to save, can I use these tips or do you have something more tailored for this situation?

  3. Hi Tasha! Thank you so much! YAY!!!! I’m so thrilled to hear that you’ll be adopting this simple 15 minute ritual into your marriage! I’m telling you… it really makes an enormous difference, especially as the days go by and the habit builds up. Blessings to you and your husband today as you pursue a greater intimacy in your marriage!

  4. Thanks for this Alicia! My husband and I have definitely fallen victim to our busy lives and I can feel the disconnect between the two of us because of it. I will be presenting this 15 minutes ritual to him so we can get back to our connection. I can’t wait to see what the 4 other tips are!

  5. Krysten, this sounds like an awesome solution for this season in your marriage! GREAT job. Never feel guilty about doing what you need to do to take care of your marriage or to be the best wife you can be!

  6. My husband works long unpredictable hours (he’s an HVAC tech in Kentucky, we have every type of weather). I try to take a nap every day when the kids do so I can stay awake until he gets home and go to bed together (I need a lot of sleep). That’s the only way we can consistently do our check-in. Sometimes I feel guilty about taking a nap almost every day but it’s what I need to do to be the best wife I can be.

  7. Wonderful, Tehila! This makes me so happy to hear of other couples who are intentionally investing in their marriage too! Blessings to your and your husband!

  8. Alicia! I just love this post and appreciate it so much. My hubby and I have had a weekly date night every week for our entire 17 years of marriage, and it’s been such a blessing. But!! The daily need to “catch up” with each other and intentionally spend a few minutes focusing on one another is so important, and one that we sometimes neglect because of the busyness of life homeschooling 5 children and my husband in ministry with a rather unpredictable schedule.

    Thank you so much for this exhortation and reminder to connect each day! We will be implementing it due to your encouragement!!!

    God bless you, sweet friend xoxoxo

  9. Hi there! I’m so sorry to hear your frustration around this topic. It sounds like communication with your spouse may be strained right now. I would encourage you to chat with a counselor or trusted friend to see if you can get to the root of some of what may be happening in your marriage. Sending hugs… and I’m praying for you right now.

  10. Great point, Bill! I agree that it is typically easier for women to share than men. But honestly, something I love about these 15 minute chats each day is that, the more we do them, the easier and more natural it becomes for marital communication to grow. The pressure is lifted. It’s not a “I must share now” moment because it becomes a regular part of the day. It’s just focusing on our friendship, like many of us we did in the beginning of the relationship.

  11. Wonderful! That sounds like us in our porch swing. Seriously one of the best investments in our marriage! Thank you for your encouragement and for including it in the Friday Faves! 🙂

  12. I agree that at times, we just need to stop and appreciate our spouse. For guys, it is especially difficult because it really means being vulnerable in the moment – something we are taught (culturally) to avoid.

  13. Ray and I love sitting in our patio gazebo and sharing a morning cup of coffee and conversing about life, etc. Loved your post and will be including it in my Friday Faves this week. Blessings to you and yours! Marie

  14. This sounds like a game changer! This is exactly what I need and I will be implementing this into our lives ASAP! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

  15. Yes, my husband and I both work from home a lot, and it’s amazing how much we don’t talk even though we are in the same house together quite a bit! These 15 minutes a day truly do make the biggest difference for our marriage! Thank you for your encouragement! And blessings to you as well!

  16. Sometimes the most profound ideas are the simplest! My husband and I work in ministry together. Our offices share a wall, but sometimes we go all day without a chance to connect. This is such a great way to do that! Blessings to you for encouraging couples in their marriages.

  17. Wonderful idea! Keeping up communication is crucial to a good marriage. What a great way to invest 15 minutes a day. smallvictories

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